Below you’ll find these five relationship tips that Robbins shared in one of her episodes.
1. allow them to show you who they are
It’s important to understand that the other person’s behaviour clearly shows how they feel about you and whether you are a priority to them. When you say “let them”, it’s a signal that the situation is beyond your control. Allow people to be who they are and let them love you or not.
2. “Let them,” but also “Let me.”
People often don’t know how to manage their emotions. Don’t let the thoughts, moods or expectations of others drain your energy. When you say “let me,” you take back your power and decide if anything is worth worrying about at all.
3. Let relationships be based on trusting yourself rather than controlling others
When you trust yourself, you don’t feel threatened because you know your power to recognise situations worthy of your attention. If you know exactly what you want out of a relationship (exclusivity, cohabitation, children, marriage, etc.), you should ask for it explicitly. Approach the person and say, “I really think you’re great… I’ve gotten to the point where I know myself. I want to be exclusive… If you don’t want the same thing, I don’t want to waste any more time.”
4. allow yourself to be open to falling in love
It’s hard to get what you want in life and love if you’re not sure if you’re going to get it. Open your arms to the world, pursue what you want, trusting your ability to figure out who is right for you. It’s an energetic exchange: when you open your arms to the world, it opens its arms to you in return. Even after heartbreak, if you really want to meet someone, you have no choice but to open up again.
5. Let love burn slowly
We often chase the spark and love at first sight. However, Mel Robbins advises us to opt for a “slow burn”. The person who is “your person” (and there can be many) should feel like “home”. Looks change over time, but if you’re with the right person, being with her feels like a relief, like “exhaling” after a hard day. Here’s what’s worth looking for.